Can You Still Trust Her After She’s Cheated
Finding out your lady has cheated on you can be one of the most difficult things to go through in a relationship. When your partner cheats on you, it leads you to experience a several different emotions. It can also severely damage your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Deciding to continue to stay in a relationship with a woman that has cheated on you usually involves a lot of patience, and even more hope. Most importantly, it involves figuring out if you can still trust her after she’s cheated on you. But this can be a lot more complex that you may have originally thought.
Find Out Why She CheatedThe first step to figuring out if you can still trust her after she’s cheated is by finding out why she cheated in the first place. It may be hard to sit down and have a conversation with her, especially when your emotions are out of control after finding out she cheated. Give yourself some time before you have this talk with her. You want to make sure that you’re thinking logically, or you may end up doing or saying something you regret.
Once you feel like you’re ready to talk to her, come right out and ask her why she cheated. Don’t take things like, “I don’t know,” or “I was weak,” as a reason. Have her explain in detail why she did it. If Swallow your pride and ask her questions like whether she’s still sexually attracted to you, and if she feels like she’s not getting enough attention from you. If her reasoning involves feeling lonely and unfilled, you may need to do some soul searching to find out what you can do to show her that you still want her. But regardless of what her answers are, don’t allow what she says to excuse her from her cheating. You are trying to prevent it from happening again, not to pretend it didn’t happen.
Does She Seem Remorseful (Or Is She Victim Blaming)A good sign that you may be able to eventually trust her again is if she actually seems remorseful that she cheated, and not that she got caught. Think about how you found out about her unfaithfulness. If she told you about it because she felt guilty, it is likely that in time you will be able to trust her again. If you happened to find out about her cheating without out her confessing it to you, you may want to be careful. Usually these types of women are only sorry that they got caught, not that they cheated.
Some women will even try to turn things around to make you seem like the bad guy. Don’t let an unfaithful women blame you for unfaithfulness. Women who claim they cheated because of things that you did are victim blamers who want to escape blame for their wrongdoing. If she doesn’t own up to her actions, it’s probably best that the two of you go your separate ways. Women who blame their partners for their cheating will probably cheat again.
Is She Trying to Regain Your Trust
One sign that you may be able to trust her after she has cheated is when you can tell that she is trying to regain your trust again. If you notice that she tells you where she is going whenever she leaves, or that she checks in with you when the two of you are away from each other, it’s often an indication that she is trying to win back your trust. Women who are sincerely trying to earn your trust will make a habit of making sure you know where they are, who they’re with, and what they’re doing practically at all times.
Women who are trying to regain your trust will also allow you your space without making a big deal about it. Most of the time they won’t question where you’re going, or who you’ll be with because they’ve accepted that they’ve lost that privilege for now. They understand that they’ve abused your trust, and that they need to be patience with you while you deal with things.
If you can tell that she’s trying to do her best to make things work, the chances that you’ll be able to trust her again are high. Trust your intuition. If you don’t feel like she’s sincerely sorry for cheating, she’ll more than likely cheat again. It’s not worth the stress or heartache to keep the relationship going.